Waiting on Love
Love is Worth the Wait
Song of Songs 8:4: Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.
Waiting to have sex until you are married is a topic that is near and dear to my heart for two reasons. One I have watched so many family and friends suffer the consequences of having sex outside of marriage, because it does not align with God’s precepts therefore it blocks his blessings. Two, because I waited to have sex until I was married and I can say the blessings he has bestowed upon our marriage, was worth the wait and I want others to experience this too!
In the novel The Heart of a Cowboy Flynn reflects on a past relationship.
After stirring up physical longings with Helen, now it was all the harder for him to control his desires. He reckoned that was one of the reasons the Good Book said not to stir up love before the time was right for it.
(p. 145 The Heart of a Cowboy by Jody Hedlund)
In a culture that is riddled with the lie from the pit of hell, that sex is just sex, and you can and should participate whenever you want with whoever you want, it is refreshing to read a romance novel that shines the light of truth on this lie. God’s word is the standard for truth. You will never find verses in the bible that condone sex outside of marriage. You will however find many verses that warn you against it and tell you that death and destruction follow those who are slaves to their fleshly desires. 1 Corinthians 6:18 – Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits out outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Flee being the key word in that verse. Flee means to run away as if the devil himself were chasing you!
You will find many verses on how those who wait until marriage are showered in God’s many blessings because sex is a gift from God to man and wife. This is because those who obey God’s commands are blessed by Him. I strongly encourage you to read 1 John as it is full of encouragement as speaks to following God’s commands and measuring everything to God’s word. If it doesn’t align with God’s word, it’s a lie.
Song of Songs paints a beautiful picture of the kind of love and passion God blesses a man and wife with. All you have to do is obey His commands.
When talking about this topic I must remind everyone that our God is a God of second chances. If you’re like Flynn and had sex outside of marriage, but now desire to live for God, He will make you new. When you enter a new relationship, He will give you the strength to do things His way and if you obey, He will bless your marriage beyond your imagination!
I will leave you with this thought: Don’t trade love for fleeting lust. Love is worth the wait.
